"Loving spousal relations and close-knit families can be easily destroyed by insensitive and silly things that we say. Many family problems are not due to external factors. Similarly, many family issues stem from internal reasons rather than external.
Only when we recognize this fact can we set out to create our own happiness. Show more care to your family members, shower more praises, put in more effort and learn to cajole and coax.
There is a Chinese saying which is especially appropriate for this situation: we ought to “treat each other as honored guests”. The meaning of this saying is that spouses and family members should give each other the same level of courtesy and respect as important guests.
When you have a happy family, your body will be happy too, and your health will naturally improve."
- Master Jin Bodhi
本来一对幸福恩爱的夫妻，一个美好幸福的家庭，都会被我们口无遮拦的愚蠢行为砸得粉碎。好多的家庭情感问题都不是由外来因素造成的，而是由你内在的问题所导致的。
认识到这个问题，你才可以有有意识地去创造幸福。对待最亲近的家人，应该要多一点关怀，多一点赞美，多一点付出，多一点勤快，还有呢，多一点甜言蜜语。
中国古人有一句话，叫“相敬如宾”。宾是指客人，宾客，意思就是要一直把你的家人当成尊贵的客人，有了尊重，冲突也会减少，幸福自然也就跟着来了。
家庭一旦幸福，你的身体也开始幸福，那你就容易得到健康。
- 金菩提禅师
Commentary by Jerome:
Some mothers love to nag and scold their children. From the moment other family members step into the house, they will start nagging at the smallest things. It would be difficult for the family members to rest. If we can show the children more love, the children will reciprocate. We should step back and look at the issues in the house with a broad and a more tolerant mind. Quarrels arise because one looks at an issue only from his perspective. Learn to look from another person's perspective. In this way, the problem will no longer be a problem.
More information available at:
1) Master Jin Bodhi Facebook
2) Official Bodhi Meditation Website
Author:
Jerome is a Buddhist practitioner that has learnt from Theravada, Mahayana and Tibetan traditions and is still learning! He first learnt meditation and Dharma from Theravadan monks and practitioners in the lineage of the Arahant Venerable Amatha Gavesi Maha Thero from Sri Lankaramaya Buddhist temple in Singapore. Then, he completed a Diploma in Buddhism from the Buddhist and Pali College in 2016. He also learnt from Zen Master Wu Jue Miao Tian (85th Zen Patriach) from the LingJi lineage in Taiwan in 2014 - 2015. Subsequently, he learnt from Garchen Rinpoche from the Drigar Thubten Dargye Ling tradition (Tibetan) and attended annual Om Mani Padme Hum and Om Ami Dewa Hrih retreats from 2015 till date. Currently, he is a disciple of Master Jin Bodhi (Mahayana) from Bodhi Meditation in Singapore and is an active volunteer there. Master Jin Bodhi is his main Dharma teacher. Jerome feels that Buddhism is not a religion but is a practical way to reduce our life's problems. The essence of Buddhism is not in the books or sutras but in the way we apply it into our lives. Having understood some aspects of Buddha's teaching, he wants to give back to the society and hopes to share his insights with everyone who has the affinity with him.
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