The key to maintaining a happy marriage is that both parties have to work hard to grow together. It will not work if one party is focused on changing himself/herself or focused on getting the other party to change. By treating each other with compassion and understanding, their lives together will be stable and their love steadfast.
- Master Jin Bodhi - Consciousness of seeing the ups and downs of life)
要维系一段幸福的婚姻，必须双方一起努力，共同成长。别想着要改变自己或者改变对方，只要用慈悲之心互相对待，生活就会构筑在谅解、包容、体谅的基石下，坚定稳固。
- 金菩提禅师 - 觉悟之眼看起落人生
Commentary by Jerome:
Both parties should learn to reflect on their own behaviours and check their initial intention whenever they do something.
If the intention is that of aversion or anger or unhappiness, that behavior is not conducive to a happy marriage. Why is that so? A mind of aversion creates an entire mass of actions that causes the other party to be unhappy. In the process of doing so, one also accumulates bad karma, perpetuates the mental habit further and sows the seeds of one's unhappiness in future.
On the other hand, if the mind is that of compassion and tolerance, aversion will not arise and one will be more understanding of the other partner. In this way, one prevents arguments, avoids bad karmic patterns from perpetuating, builds one's paramitas (tolerance) and builds positive karmic patterns for his happiness in future.
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Author:
Jerome is a Buddhist practitioner that has learnt from Theravada, Mahayana and Tibetan traditions and is still learning! He first learnt meditation and Dharma from Theravadan monks and practitioners in the lineage of the Arahant Venerable Amatha Gavesi Maha Thero from Sri Lankaramaya Buddhist temple in Singapore. Then, he completed a Diploma in Buddhism from the Buddhist and Pali College in 2016. He also learnt from Zen Master Wu Jue Miao Tian (85th Zen Patriach) from the LingJi lineage in Taiwan in 2014 - 2015. Subsequently, he learnt from Garchen Rinpoche from the Drigar Thubten Dargye Ling tradition (Tibetan) and attended annual Om Mani Padme Hum and Om Ami Dewa Hrih retreats from 2015 till date. Currently, he is a disciple of Master Jin Bodhi (Mahayana) from Bodhi Meditation in Singapore and is an active volunteer there. Master Jin Bodhi is his main Dharma teacher. Jerome feels that Buddhism is not a religion but is a practical way to reduce our life's problems. The essence of Buddhism is not in the books or sutras but in the way we apply it into our lives. Having understood some aspects of Buddha's teaching, he wants to give back to the society and hopes to share his insights with everyone who has the affinity with him.
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